November 20, 2005

Ed & Jeanette's Wedding

Posted by Scott at 08:13 PM

Click to see the albumPhoto Album - I returned this afternoon from Ed and Jeanette's wedding. Click on their image to see the photo album. The first image is just a straggler that was in the camera of the kids around the computers now that two are setup side by side. The next several pictures show the beauty of inside of the church where they were wed. The album wraps up with several pictures of the couple and their family and friends.

Cincinnati - My trip went pretty smoothly. I did mess up on the morning of the flight and gave Ed an arrival time an hour later than actual. Thus I got sit around the airport for a while. Between arrival and the rehearsal Ed and I went to Skyline Chili. I hadn't had a chance to eat Cincinnati-style chili since moving to New England so it was nice to revisit an old favorite. After rehearsal we had a dinner at a nice Italian restaurant on a hill that looked over the Queen City.

The wedding Mass was Saturday morning at 10:00AM. As you can tell from the pictures, the inside of the church is beautiful. It reminded me a bit of St. John Cantius in downtown Chicago although this church was nondescript on the outside. The wedding was a very Catholic Matrimony Mass, but I don't think Ed and Jeanette would have it any other way, nor would I if I could do it over.

The reception was downtown at the Hilton Netherlands. As is a tradition for the best man, I gave a toast to the new couple. Here's the toast:

“In these times where the meaning of marriage has been so distorted by modern media and culture, it can be difficult to find an example of a truly Catholic understanding of marriage. For example:
The parallels between spousal love and the relationship between Christ and His Church.
Your own sanctification found in working towards the sanctification of your spouse.
The daily acts of mutual self donation and self giving.
The inseparable unitive and procreative ends of marriage.
The life giving love.
The growth in virtue found in the school of daily family life.
This is why we refer to the Sacrament as Holy Matrimony. Like all Christian vocations, it is a means of sanctification. Ed and Jeanette clearly demonstrate this. It has truly been an honor for me to witness and assist with today's event of monumental grace. With the deep spring of graces available in today's Sacrament may God continue to bless and strengthen them. May they always be an example of the Catholic vision of marriage for all who know them for generations to come. To Ed and Jeanette.”

Okay, so it's not your typical toast, but Ed and Jeanette are not your usual couple. I've never met a couple who so thoroughly understood the Catholic teachings on marriage and embraced them. I really do believe their example will inspire others. Just for fun I was going to throw in something about if God blesses them with children, they'll be in the grad school of family life. It's even funnier if you know how long Ed's been in grad school.

Movies - As if the photo album won't already spike the site bandwidth, I thought I'd go for broke and put up three videos. I've mentioned in the past how the boys like to ride their Big Wheels down the hill in our back yard. Below are three short QuickTime movies of them in action. Each is 2 - 2 1/2 megabytes, so broadband access is recommended.


Got to admit, it looks like a lot of fun...... :-)

Posted by: Chris B at November 20, 2005 10:01 PM

Glad your home- sounds like you had a nice time. I hope it all went okay for Michelle. Did she tell you she's coming here for a spa weekend? =)
I want to go down that hill, do they make really big big wheels?

Posted by: Alyssa at November 21, 2005 12:19 AM

Hi Chris Belanger, (not Bilik)
Yep, I had a nice time. It was fun. However, I got almost no sleep on the night before I left for Cincinnati and the night before the wedding. Nerves and anxiety about things. Once the wedding was behind me, I slept for eleven hours solid!
I was glad to get back home. As Ed joked with me at the reception, "hey! This is the first time I get to sleep with my wife and you don't get to sleep with yours!" It was true in both the physical sense of the word and the conjugal sense (ahem). After sixteen years of being married, thirteen of which he's known us, I guess I deserved that little dig. ;-)

Posted by: Scott at November 21, 2005 06:00 AM

Hi Alyssa,
I really wanted Michelle to come with. Ed and Jeanette hoped she could come out as well. When the plans were formed this summer, it hinged on whether mom's health suspicions were real. Since they are, mom and dad couldn't come out to watch the kids for us. Otherwise we would have both gone to Cincinnati and later celebrated Thanksgiving together with the folks back in Milford.
Michelle was in good spirits when I arrived. Of course it helped that I walked through the door holding a Dunkin Donuts iced mocha latte for her. For Michelle, it's like bringing flowers. :-) She was eager to see the pictures as soon as I'd unpacked. She wanted to at least _see_ the lucky girl. She always thought Ed was "such a sweetie" that she was surprised he hadn't been "already snatched up by someone".

Posted by: Scott at November 21, 2005 06:11 AM

Duh! Silly me! Re-reading Chris Belanger's post, it dawns on me that he was probably talking about riding down the hill as being a lot of fun. I'd spent so much time writing up the wedding and putting together the photos, it hadn't occured to me that he could be talking about the videos. That was a last minute addition. I was going to put mp3's of Claire's latest piano music online as well, but you have to draw the line somewhere...

Posted by: Scott at November 21, 2005 06:31 AM

Scott, this is the most beautiful toast I've ever heard!!!

Posted by: Lisa at November 23, 2005 08:25 PM

Hi Lisa,

Thanks. I had a little time once I got back from rehearsal dinner to write it back in my hotel room. I've read a lot about Catholic theology of marriage and this is the first couple I've met that actually "got" it before they got married. I'm not saying couples like that don't exist, but it's rare.

Funny tidbit: because I think much better at a keyboard, I actually typed it in my hotel room on my iBook. I wordsmithed a while and then transcribed it via paper and pen to have a "printout" for the reception. Before there was the laser printer, the inkjet printer, the dot matrix printer, there was... handwriting. ;-)

Posted by: Scott at November 23, 2005 09:55 PM